By Della Menechella
As a speaker and trainer, people often
approach me after one of my programs to tell me how excited they are about the
strategies they have learned and how they plan to put these ideas into action.
When I connect with these people later on and ask how the techniques are
working for them, I usually get answers such as “I really planned to use them
but then things got so crazy that I never had the chance.” or “I tried them
once and wasn’t successful so I gave up.”
Success, like anything else, takes application
and practice. Anyone who plays a
sport or has achieved expertise in any skill knows that it doesn’t happen the
first time. They learn what to do
and then apply it over and over again until it becomes easy and natural for
them. They would never think of
expecting to improve if they didn’t apply what they had learned. However, they think different rules apply to success
If you want to make a change in your life or
career, you must work with positive ideas until you can apply them effortlessly.
They need to become part of your operating system.
The following tips can help you do this more easily.
Work On One Thing At A Time – Often people want to change many things and they try to do it all at the same time. This can be overwhelming. Choose one idea and work with it until you gain mastery. Then you can work with another idea until you are successful with it and so on. In this way you can make changes without a lot of stress.
Determine What The Benefit Will Be To You – It’s great to want to change, but if you aren’t aware of how you are going to benefit as a result of the change, it is easy to get discouraged. How will achieving this change make your life better? What value will it bring to you? It is much easier to stay motivated when you have the answers to these questions.
Recognize That You Might Initially Feel Uncomfortable – Sometimes people give up working with a new idea because it feels uncomfortable. They don’t want to deal with these negative feelings. Any time you try something new it feels awkward. This is a temporary situation. As you work with the new idea it will begin to feel more natural for you. It is all part of the learning process.
Commit To Using The Ideas For 30 Days – It is very easy to give up if you don’t achieve instantaneous success. Make a commitment to apply the idea consistently for 30 days. If something happens to interrupt the process, then start again with your 30-day commitment. If you make the commitment at the beginning of the process, you are more likely to achieve your goal.
Appreciate Your Successes – As you work with the new idea, recognize your successes. Maybe you are trying to deal more effectively with stress. Congratulate yourself when you remember to breathe deeply when you feel your stress starting to increase. When we recognize our small successes it helps us achieve bigger successes.
Be Patient With Yourself – Don’t be self critical if you find yourself occasionally falling back into old patterns. You have been operating in that manner for years. It is going to take time before you fully integrate the new idea into your life. As you work with it on a consistent basis, you will find that you revert to old patterns less and less frequently.
Like anything of value that we achieve in life, success takes practice. Make a commitment to put in the practice time that is required so you can experience the wonderful rewards that success brings.
Della Menechella is a speaker and trainer who helps organizations achieve greater success by improving the performance of their people. She is a contributing author to Thriving in the Midst of Change and the author of the videotape The Twelve Commandments of Goal Setting. She can be reached at 732-985-1919 or firstname.lastname@example.org. Visit www.dellamenechella.com for other free articles about how to achieve peak performance.
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